A Happy Father’s Day Mr. Husband!

On June 25, 2019June 27, 2019 By Sweta KachhapIn Relationships3 Comments

Mr. Husband is definitely the best hands-on that I know of!So, with this post, we come to an end to a four-week-long Father’s day celebration saga. And here’s a small poem for wishing a Happy Father’s Day to Mr. Husband appreciating him for the amazing father that he is.

I love you as a man and as a husband, I do too.

But what I love about you the most is the thing in the father’s role you do.

I’ve watched you change and change for good.

I appreciate the man you’ve turned into embracing fatherhood.

Since the moment I’ve had Shaarav in my tummy you’ve had him in your heart.

With the habits, you two share it’s difficult to tell you both apart.

I remember when you held Shaarav the first time, you gazed at him with brightly-lit eyes.

I’ve watched you in pain each time our little munchkin cries.

You changed his diapers and you’ve even stayed up at nights.

I giggle when he runs up to you to tell how he and I got into a fight.

I’m still jealous because ‘Papa’ was the first words he ever said.

But it makes us even when Shaarav needs me to put him to bed.

He jumps and leaps to match your footsteps and your stride.

And each time he does that, this mummy’s heart swells with pride.

You are his hero and you always will be.

He sees in you the invisible superhero cape that the world can’t see.

Shaarav is totally your replica in more ways that I can tell.

I thank my stars each day for having made him with you since the moment from heaven he fell!

Wishing you a Happy Father’s Day Mr. Husband!

This post is a part of the blog train hosted by Prisha Lalwani of Mummasaurus.com. In the same context, I take this opportunity to thank Revati Bhushan for introducing me whose wonderful post you can read here and I’d also like to introduce Debidutta Mohanty whose lovely post you can read here.

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Love,

Mrs. Sunshine

I Love You, Papa!

On June 18, 2019 By Sweta KachhapIn Relationships26 Comments

Our “Love You” Card for Daddy Dearest on Father’s Day

Even after belonging to millennial generation the concept of “Equal Parenting” comes as a myth. More than half of the parenting role in some families even now has to be taken care of by the mother. And the gender divide begins right from the second the child is born.

Some days I am totally convinced Mr. Husband isn’t even the right man for having been married to. But most days I am so grateful thinking about how lucky I am to be raising my son with a guy like him, someone who puts family before everything else. It’s really beautiful to have another person to share the ups and downs of parenting with every single day who is equally involved and equally shares the responsibilities.

One can choose her husband but only a few get to choose their fathers. We thank our stars every day for having Mr. Husband as Shaarav’s father who has been an equal parent right from the time we conceived. He has played an equal parenting role in each and every area of Shaarav’s upbringing be it feeding him, changing him, bathing and massaging him, tending him when he’s sick. He has even spent sleepless nights by my side and has woken up at the oddest possible hour when the need be. He has been an avid reader of parenting articles because he wants to understand whatever minuscule thing happening to Shaarav and wants to make sure nothing goes wrong with Shaarav.

And though I’m jealous that Shaarav is his Daddy’s replica in almost all aspects it didn’t come as a surprise when the first words he spoke was “Papa” instead of “Maa“

So for the “equal parent” that Daddy Dearest is we prepared an “I Love You, Papa” card for him on Father’s Day to appreciate all his efforts to keep us well fed, happy and healthy and to celebrate his existence in our small world.

Father’s Day went by a couple of days ago. But we are celebrating Father’s Day the whole month. Celebrating the fathers in our lives and appreciating them for the efforts they make I feel just one day is never enough. So while I have shared the poem I wrote to my father and the poem about what Mr. Husband would have written. Shaarav thanks his Papa not just for sharing his DNA but also for raising him the best way possible to become just like him. So, here’s presenting to you another short poem about what Shaarav would have written for his Daddy. Let’s celebrate the fathers in our lives, people!

I’m just a baby, but still, I know.

I love you so much, I might not always be able to show.

When I was in mummy’s tummy and you talked to me.

I have known you since the time, you see.

You waited for me just as much as mummy.

Mummy tells me I used to kick to voice when I was in her tummy.

You were the first to hold me in your arm.

Holding me tenderly, keeping me safe from harm.

You looked at me in amazement and wonder, I looked just like you.

My tiny hands wrapped around your finger, I opened my eyes to look at you.

You smiled watching me, I felt cozy into you as I snuggled.

You showered me with kisses as you hugged me tight and cuddled.

When the doctor pricked me for vaccine and mummy cried.

I held onto you while you stayed strong, you tried.

There’s definitely something special about your love.

I thank my stars for having chosen you as my papa from above.

This post is a part of the blog train hosted by Prisha Lalwani of Mummasaurus.com. In the same context, I take this opportunity to thank Sneha Jubin or introducing me whose wonderful post you can read here and I’d also like to introduce Cindy Ann Dsilva whose lovely post you can read here.

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Love,

Mrs. Sunshine

A Happy Father’s Day to Me

On June 11, 2019June 13, 2019 By Sweta KachhapIn Relationships8 Comments

You come to me with sadness in your eyes,
And tell me we have to talk,
Immediately I think the worst,
‘Is it me? Does she want to walk?’

You try to begin, but don’t know how,
And my nerves are standing on end.
You say that you’re pregnant, two times confirmed,
And we may have a new little friend.

I’m speechless and breathless,
I can’t form words to say,
This isn’t what I expected,
Driving home today.

I know this is sudden,
And we haven’t prepared,
But we’ve been through so much already,
Look at all we’ve shared.

Now there’s another life,
Growing inside of you,
And I wonder what kind of Dad I’ll be,
Will our Child’s dreams come true?

Will I be the kind of father,
Who dotes upon his child?
Who fixes skinned knees,
With a smile, patient and mild?

Will I learn to chase the monsters,
From underneath their bed?
Will I be able to ease the nightmares,
From our child’s tiny head?

Will you shine as a mother?
Will contentment light your face?
Will it bring out even more beauty,
Which the passage of time could never erase?

Will you be the kind of mother,
Who worries each time our child is ill?
Each stuffy nose an emergency,
Or will you have more resolve than I will?

What will it look like?
Will it have your eyes?
Will it love us right away?
Will it look on us with surprise?

Will we learn to adjust to 2am cries?
Can we deal with late night feedings?
Will I cry in front of the Obstetrician,
The First time I hear our child’s heart beating?

Will it be a son or daughter?
Will it grow up to be like us?
Will we learn to deal with the crankiness,
When our baby starts to fuss?

These questions seem so pertinent,
More so now than they ever had,
I hope our child will love their mother,
As much as she’s loved by their Dad.

I’m scared and excited,
Hesitant and yet bold,
We’re going to be a family,
And our baby we’ll soon hold.

This post is a part of the blog train hosted by Prisha Lalwani of Mummasaurus.com. In the same context, I take this opportunity to thank Cindy Ann Dsilva for introducing me whose wonderful post you can read here. I’d also like to introduce Revati Bhushan whose lovely post you can read here.

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Love,

Mrs. Sunshine

Wishing You a Happy Father’s Day, Papa!

On June 4, 2019 By Sweta KachhapIn Relationships11 Comments

In raising a child, usually, the mothers get the limelight and are the centre of attention most of the time while fathers are the unsung heroes though they share an equally important role in parenting and in a child’s upbringing. Read 5 Essential Newborn Tips from a Bewildered New Dad here.

So, it’s that time of the year where we bring these unsung heroes to the focus and show them our love and deeply felt gratitude for being that rock in our lives. Father’s Day is just around the corner and I want to dedicate the whole month for the fathers in my life.

I have grown watching my father as a man of few words. But whatever he said was meant to be etched in stone. Bot, he was strict and I even remember being hesitant talking to him and spoke to him only when need be. But flipping through the family pictures like these tell a different story of him altogether. Though he doesn’t say much yet loves us as much as those dads who keep telling how much they love their children. of late, as he’s growing old, he has become more of a friend than a parent. and now I can talk to him about anything that I want to without any hesitation. and the stricter he used to be with us, the stricter he’s spoiling his grandchild filthy.

Papa with Shaarav on one of Shaarav’s monthly birthdays!

Here’s a small poem dedicated to him on the event of Father’s Day celebrating his being not just as a father and a grandfather but also as a kind and generous human!

If my life were a story ever needed to be told,

So should you know you’d be the writer, lo and behold!

I feel lucky you were the one to make me,

I know you take pride, you just don’t let us see.

You taught me to differentiate the right from the wrong.

You gave me values, you made me strong.

You’re a man of principles and a simple man with a good heart.

You work silently never looking for praises, I can tell apart.

You shaped me to be a good person going out of your way.

Whatever I am today I owe it to you, each and every day.

You have been the pillar and the anchor that I needed.

You have always been there for us whose advice I have always heeded.

You have always been proud of us you may not particularly show.

But we are even prouder of you so that you know.

The day you got me married I know you cried.

I watched you force that smile through the tears, oh, how hard you tried.

I remember the day mom died, you stayed strong though you were shattered inside.

I was expecting at the time and you never left my side.

It’s been hard for us but it has been the hardest for you.

And here you are delivering your responsibilities and doing what you need to do.

You are not just a great father but an amazing grandfather too.

We thank the stars to have you raise us, it’s so true.

You are a man of character and a will so strong.

I hope and wish Shaarav takes some from you, I so long.

As we get busy with our lives while you get old.

There’s still your heart that will forever remain gold.

You gave me strength and life lessons to learn.

I wish and pray to be born as your daughter again, yes that’s what I yearn.

Wishing you a very Happy Father’s Day, Papa!

This post is a part of a blog train hosted by Prisha Lalwani of Mummasaurus.com. In the same context, I take this opportunity to thank Cindy Ann Dsilva for introducing me whose wonderful post you can read here. I’d also like to introduce Noor Anand Chawla whose lovely post you can read here.

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Love,

Mrs. Sunshine

BlogchatterA2Z Challenge – Reflection Post

On May 6, 2019 By Sweta KachhapIn Blogchatter Projects, Relationships2 Comments

Hello Readers!

April was a crazy month with BlogchatterA2Z Blogging Challenge. I successfully completed 26 posts in a single month and here’s my reflection post about the whole experience. It was hectic, it was tiring but at the same time, it was accomplishing and fulfilling. Many times during the journey I felt like giving up and quitting the challenge midway it was so daunting but I kept myself motivated and was determined to complete it.

It all started with the theme reveal. Since it was my first time and I had been waiting to take part in the challenge I was very both excited and nervous at the same time. I wanted my theme to be unique and suddenly it popped in my mind like a thinking bulb and nothing could have been better than this. So my theme to the challenge was Marriage Rededicated. Isn’t it unique and exciting? You can read all about it here.

The challenge was real. The struggle was real. But so was the learning and excitement. I got to discover and test my own limits, creativity and writing skills. I got to push my limits and discipline myself to write under pressure. I got to know and connect with so many amazing bloggers and read their brilliant pieces all in one place. And more than anything I could get consistent visits on my blog.

So, with this reflection post, I take the opportunity to thank the whole Blogchatter Team for this wonderfully awesome experience. I’m happy that I jumped on the boat not fully knowing what I had gotten myself into. I’m glad I could survive through the challenge and emerge victoriously. In this month I plan to read and engage in as many posts I can and I’m looking forward to participating in the challenge again the next year. You can find all my post from the challenge under #MarriageRededicated.

Love,

Mrs. Sunshine

“I promise to be ZEALOUS” – #BlogchatterA2Z

On April 30, 2019 By Sweta KachhapIn Blogchatter Projects, Relationships1 Comment

“I promise to be ZEALOUS maintaining the same zest, enthusiasm and a sense of wonder, and never grow weary of each other.”

With this vow, we promise to always be willing to be investing the same amount of zeal, energy, and enthusiasm in our relationship with which we started out in the first place.

What does the vow mean?

Being zealous means showing active interest and enthusiasm in something. When you are being zealous it means you are ardently desirous of that thing to invest your time and wholeheartedly dive into it.

Why do we need to be ZEALOUS for a lasting and joyful marriage?

Being zealous is an attribute which though holds a very important place in a relationship it is the one that most relationship lacks. As we begin to get more comfortable in our relationship we tend to lose the fervour with which we once began the relationship. But it is up to us to maintain the same enthusiasm and ardour to keep the marriage thriving and happy.

So, when I say that “I promise to be zealous” it means that we are willing to go to any lengths keep the spark alive with the same passion, sense of wonder and eagerness with which we once started out.

Marriage requires us to be present for each other and actively interested. What’s a marriage when we’re not present for our spouse or seem disinterested in each other? Nobody wants a relationship that’s just for namesake. Marriage requires partners to be actively involved in each other’s biggest as well as the smallest joys and sorrows equally.

So, when I say that “I promise to be zealous” it also means that we are willing to keep the zing in the relationship alive and keep upping the oomph factor and continue to be desirous to each other.

With this, we come to an eventful month of blogging. You can find the opening post to the vows “What marriage means to me?” here and the previous vow with alphabet Y here.

Love,

Mrs. Sunshine

“I promise to be YIELDING” – #BlogchatterA2Z

On April 29, 2019 By Sweta KachhapIn Blogchatter Projects, RelationshipsLeave a comment

“I promise to be YIELDING and willing to save the relationship instead of trying to win an argument.”

With this vow, we promise to always be willing to be submissive and allowing to be influenced by each other and give in to an argument rather than hurting the other in trying to win in a particular situation.

What does the vow mean?

A dictionary defines yielding as tending to give in, surrender or agree. People look upon yielding as a weakness when in fact in marriage it is the most courageous and powerful attribute. When you are willing to yield it means you care enough for the person and not the situation. The person matters more than the situation and therefore we find it more convenient to lose when winning can mean losing the person and the relationship.

Why do we need to be YIELDING for a joyful and lasting marriage?

Yielding in disagreements in marriage can really be transforming if you aim for a happy and peaceful marriage. Whether you’ve had an arranged marriage or a love marriage willingness to be yielding is one of the most important attribute in marriage. And since we have had an arranged marriage and we are still in the process of knowing each other better to be yielding becomes all the more important.

Coming from different backgrounds and having different sets of beliefs, faiths, ideas and opinions are bound to attract disagreements and conflicts. And our marriage, too, isn’t conflict-proof. No matter how happy we are or how strong our marriage is disagreements is too commonplace in our marriage too. And we are not of the belief as “don’t go to sleep angry”. In fact, we are a more of “sleep-it-off” couple.

When we have a conflict we can either choose to allow it to build up and get heated up or we can choose to step back and approach at the situation with a fresh perspective. By being stubborn we only build walls around us allowing us to wound us more deeply and to grow resentment. So, someone has to be yielding and being yielding doesn’t raise questions about our equality or make us any less important and valued than the other.

So, when I say “I promise to be yielding” it means that in an event of an impasse between us we are willing to reinvigorate by stepping back and returning back to the situation with a fresh perspective rather than nurse our own inflicted woundedness.

A divorce is never an option for us. We had decided very early on that we’ll make this work whatever it takes. Why? Because, there hasn’t been a single case of divorce in our community and we definitely don’t want to be the first. That’s motivation enough for us and more than anything we are in the marriage for everything forever and we are very clear about that.

So, when I say “I promise to be yielding” it also means that rather than making our marriage a power struggle we are willing to resist our urge to “win” arguments and disagreements, and manage our conflicts in a way that we both walk out of it feeling heard, respected and valued. Because, sometimes we need to lose if we want to win.

Keep watching the space for the next vow with alphabet Z. You can find the opening post to the vows “What marriage means to me?” here and the previous vow with alphabet X here.

Love,

Mrs. Sunshine

“I promise XCITEMENT” – #BlogchatterA2Z

On April 27, 2019 By Sweta KachhapIn Blogchatter Projects, Relationships2 Comments

“I promise XCITEMENT and thrill in our relationship to add the spark and turn our ordinary lives into extraordinary.”

With this vow, we promise to always keep the spark ignited and strive towards never having a dull moment in the relationship.

What does the vow mean?

Xcitement is defined as the feeling of being lively and cheerful from joy. Xcitement is a feeling or situation full of activity, joy, exhilaration, or upheaval. If you are full of Xcitement, it means you are showing a heightened state of energy, enthusiasm, eagerness, etc.

Why should there be XCITEMENT for a happy and happening marriage?

A happy marriage is not something that you find, but it is something that you create and keep creating it. And Xcitement, indeed, is the essence of healthy and happening marriage which helps to never let those tingles fadeaway that was there during the newness of the relationship.

Between Mr. Husband and me, Mr. Husband is the tamed one while I am the wild one. So in our marriage, it is up to me to add the excitement. The secret to our marriage not falling into a rut despite its long-term is not because we do different things; it’s because we do the same things differently. And one reason for bringing Shaarav to our lives is definitely for the excitement. And now there’s never a dull moment in our lives (not that there ever was).

So, when I say “I promise Xcitement” it means we are willing to put efforts it needs to keep the relationship lively and delightful.

We keep painting and repainting our love with shades of our favourite colours to avoid boredom and keep it lively. We keep rediscovering in each other the person who made us fall madly in love, who drove us crazy in lust, who made us laugh out loud at some silly joke and who made annoyed the hell out of us.

So, when I say “I promise Xcitement” it also means that amongst all those infinite nitty-gritty and mundane moments of daily life we are willing to strive to achieve some extraordinarily stellar moments of novelty adding a sense of fulfilment and gratification.

Keep watching the space for the next vow with alphabet Y. You can find the opening post to the vows “What marriage means to me?” here and the previous vow with alphabet W here.

Love,

Mrs. Sunshine

“I promise to WITNESS” – #BlogchatterA2Z

On April 26, 2019 By Sweta KachhapIn Blogchatter Projects, Relationships2 Comments

“I promise to WITNESS and care about everything that happens in your life and that your life wouldn’t go unnoticed.”

With this vow, we promise to always be witnesses to each other’s lives caring about the smallest things that happen in our lives including the good things and bad things alike.

What does the vow mean?

A dictionary defines witness as to perceive or be contemporaneous with something or someone. The literal meaning of to witness means to notice and observe closely but in a relationship or in a marriage it means to care enough to be a source of both strength and solace to each other by way of acknowledging each other’s existence.

This vow is inspired by the movie “Shall We Dance” and if you have watched the movie you might actually know what I am talking about.

Why do we need to bear a WITNESS for a long-lasting and happy marriage?

Marriage is all about companionship and we all need a witness to our lives to notice us and make us feel cared for. We want someone to be a part of our life experiences, to share and have a life together and to see us live. And marriage is that institution where we become witnesses to each other through everything – the good and the bad, the big and the small, the happening and the mundane – everything. I mean who else apart from spouses would be interested in knowing the minutia of your daily life like what you had for lunch or how many hours you slept or why are you having a headache or when was the last movie you watched.

So, when I say “I promise to witness” it means we are willing to pledge each other to not let their lives go unnoticed because we’ll be each other’s witnesses. It means that we are willing to be present for each other through it all – the joy and the pain, the opportunities and the hard luck, and the surprises and the shocks. And not just because we will nevertheless be special and amazing to each other but also because we shall be at a loss to let our wonderful lives go unnoticed and un-witnessed.

Promising to witness is a way of showing that you’ll never be alone since you matter to me and so do your life and your experiences. It is a way of telling that I see you through your journey.

So, when I say “I promise to witness” it also means that we are not only willing to lovingly give our attention to each other and compassionately observe how our lives unfold through the fullness of our life experiences, but we are also giving each other the freedom to be known and acknowledged.

Keep watching the space for the next vow with alphabet X. You can find the opening post to the vows “What marriage means to me?” here and the previous vow with alphabet V here.

Love,

Mrs. Sunshine

“I promise to be VULNERABLE” – #BlogchatterA2Z

On April 25, 2019April 25, 2019 By Sweta KachhapIn Blogchatter Projects, RelationshipsLeave a comment

“I promise to be VULNERABLE revealing my innermost to you and be my authentic self without the fear of being hurt or rejected.”

With this vow, we promise to always be true to ourselves and each other showing and sharing our true self without pretentions and fear of being judged or hurt.

What does the vow mean?

Vulnerability is defined as the ability to open up and be exposed to being hurt or rejected. But vulnerability is required to reach the true affection that a relationship and marriage requires.

Why do we need to be VULNERABLE for a happy and satisfying marriage?

Mr. Husband and I, both are very down-to-earth people and that’s one thing that drew us to each other and that’s the one thing that has kept us look and feel attracted to one another even after 6 and half years of marriage and a two-year-old toddler. Being vulnerable has helped us remain authentic to each other and voice our thoughts and opinions even if they are not popular. So, when I say “I promise to be vulnerable” I mean we are willing to allow knowing each other fully – our visions, our thoughts, secrets, weaknesses, apprehensions, etc. without the fear of being judged and criticized.

Being vulnerable can seem scary and terrifying because some may perceive it for being submissive or weak. But it’s actually not. But opposing to the popular belief, it actually entails the strength and courage to be yourself without being pretentious even if there’s a risk of being hurt. So, when I say “I promise to be vulnerable” it means we are willing to be courageous enough to show our authentic selves despite the risk, uncertainty and emotional exposure.

Keep watching the space for the next vow with alphabet W. You can find the opening post to the vows “What marriage means to me?” here and the previous vow with alphabet U here.

Love,

Mrs. Sunshine

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BlogchatterA2Z Challenge – Reflection Post

“I promise to be ZEALOUS” – #BlogchatterA2Z

What does the vow mean?

Why do we need to be ZEALOUS for a lasting and joyful marriage?

“I promise to be YIELDING” – #BlogchatterA2Z

What does the vow mean?

Why do we need to be YIELDING for a joyful and lasting marriage?

“I promise XCITEMENT” – #BlogchatterA2Z

What does the vow mean?

Why should there be XCITEMENT for a happy and happening marriage?

“I promise to WITNESS” – #BlogchatterA2Z

What does the vow mean?

Why do we need to bear a WITNESS for a long-lasting and happy marriage?

“I promise to be VULNERABLE” – #BlogchatterA2Z

What does the vow mean?

Why do we need to be VULNERABLE for a happy and satisfying marriage?